I can’t believe it’s been 2 years already. Little did I know 2 years ago that life would turn out a million times better than any expectations. I promise it hasn’t been easy but when I moved down to Kent to start my industry job I had a clear vision for myself: doing my absolute best and trying to be better than the day before every single day. I didn’t have any metric, I just wanted to feel like I was achieving something every single day.
Keeping my goals as general as possible was a great idea. I promise that most of the time, considering the global events and this little thing with covid, the purpose of the day was just making sure I would make it or keeping my sanity.
There are a couple of things that helped me improving myself and this is what I want to share today with my post.
Seeking peer feedback
If you knew me some years ago, you wouldn’t believe in this statement. My motto has always been “No one knows better than me!”. That was a poor way of living. I was stuck in my own mindset believing that I was doing okay while my life was precipitating along with my mental health. I had to learn that there’s a different perspective outside my own that I had to accept no matter how much I liked it or not! Long story short, from completely neglecting other people’s opinions, I started asking people for help, ways on how to do better and improve personally or professionally. Needless to say that my progress skyrocketed because I reduced the number of mistakes drastically by simply allowing people to direct me towards the right path.
DISCLAIMER: with this being said, I don’t want anyone to think that you should accept or consider unsolicited advice or opinions from random people or strangers. 1. I ask for help, I don’t take in unsolicited advice 2. I put a filter on how much I take in, ultimately, I’m still allowed to make mistakes, learn and go through my own process.
Surrounding myself with people who know better
I can’t put into words the importance of surrounding yourself with a positive circle of people, people who uplift you, empower you and have the balls of telling you when you screwed up. Needless to say that my close friends fall into this category of people. Professionally, I don’t think I would have made it without the community of women (mostly women but I didn’t discard the support of men just because of their sex) I reached out to. I never met most of them personally, I only know them through social media. But the connection is so powerful that it feels like you’ve been knowing each other forever. We have same passion and story so it became really easy to connect and support each other.
You’re the avarage of the five people you surround yourself with!Someone has said it
Understanding who you really are!
The time in isolation during the pandemic might have been an agony. However, it gave me time and space to sit down with myself and figure out my identity. Who was I outside the scientist, the social influencer, my PhD and my circle of people? This time invested in my personal development was invaluable and set the foundation of who I want to be in the future. My value and my worth are not defined by my marital status, my job title, my income, how people see me or because I created a page to empower women in science AT ALL. I might lose all of this tomorrow morning, which would be catastrophic. However, who I am will still be there, plus worth and value will remain unchanged because I will still be the same in the inside. That probably is the most important part of living my best life. My worth coming from within and has nothing to do with external validation.
If I’m not my list of achievements, what’s left of me?Naomi Osaka
To conclude, I enjoy my website and this creative outlet I have been using for 6 years, crazy. I have posted this picture on women’s day to tell the world how this social media business gave me enough confidence to stand up for myself and vocalise my thoughts, emotions and feelings. I had a horrible winter and my mental health was unstable. I’m happy to say that I managed to get myself out from that dark mental space. This also means I will feel more creative and put more time and effort on writing. See you soon 🙋🏻♀️